If you listen to women enough when they talk about sex you'll quickly learn that men are often failing them in the bedroom because men put themselves first instead of a woman.
I'm sorry to break it to you guys, but just penetrating a woman with your cock isn't going to get the job done normally. Instead, you need to learn the art of foreplay and getting a woman revved up so that she can also reach climax and have an amazing orgasm. I'm not going to get into foreplay here, but I am going to detail how to go down on a woman, as it's one of the best ways to get a woman to orgasm or close to orgasm.
The main reason to go down on a woman is that they typically love it...if you're good at it. But there are a few more reasons.
By going down on a woman you're showing her that you're willing to put her first, which can be a huge turn on to her because women respond to emotional stimulation just as much as they respond to their physical stimulation. While the act of putting her first may seem a selfless act, you'll soon find out that this selfless act will reap many rewards in the form of her wanting more and more sex with you.
When you go down on a woman for the first couple of times you'll start to learn the different spots in and around her pussy that get her stimulated. Some woman will be more stimulated at her clitoris, while others will be more stimulated at her G-spot. You'll also find that a woman can be very stimulated at her cervix.
When men think about going down on a woman, they often think of where the woman is laying on her back and the man is on his belly with his head nestled between her legs. While this is likely where you'll get started there are a couple more positions that open up when you eat out a woman.
The first position is her riding your face. The good thing about learning a woman's body and her pussy's pleasure points, is that when she rides your face you can often make her orgasm quickly. Many woman are able to orgasm easier when they are more actively engaged in the sexual position. When she's on top of your face and riding you, you can take what you've learned about her pleasure points and stimulate them while she's actively engaged in the process more than just laying on her back.
The second position is 69. When a woman knows that you like to eat her out she will often want to pleasure you at the same time. This is a really fun position for both of you and has led to magic in the bedroom many times.
You can even pivot her riding your face into 69 or the opposite!
In writing this section, I'm going to write as if you've never seen a pussy so I don't miss any details. Especially for those that haven't.
To start off, you're going to want to move the woman to where she's laying on her back. Then you'll want to get her to spread her legs for you so that you can get access to her pussy. When I do this, I like to start down by her feet or calves and start kissing up her legs, gently spreading her legs further and further apart as I make my way up them.
When you get up to her pussy, you'll want her legs bent, knees in the air, and her feet or heels on the bed or surface that she's laying on. This will give you better access to her pussy.
When I have a woman in this position, especially for the first time, I like to kiss around her inner thighs and pussy. This gives me a moment to survey the area and see what her pussy looks like so I know what I'm working with.
Once you have a good survey of the area, you'll want to spread her lips to get access to her clitoris. This is often called "The man in the boat" as it will be a small bump at the top of her lips where they come together. Some women will have a much larger clitoris that's very prominent. The only difference in them is the size.
As you expose the clit, you'll want to take a long lick across it to get her blood flowing to that area and her senses heightened. Continue to take long strokes with your tongue along her clit to get her stimulated. As you continue to do this you should start to see her reacting to the stimulation through her body movements and the sounds she makes. When she starts to react you should also notice that the clitoris is going to get harder and more swollen. This is what you want. This means she is getting aroused.
When you notice the clit is getting harder and swollen, then you can start to take shorter strokes and flick it with your tongue more rapidly. Don't start off at full speed, but slowly increase the frequency of your licks and flicks to see how she reacts. What you should start seeing is her pelvic area pushing up towards your face and her reactions getting stronger. At this point she may start begging for you to penetrate her with your cock. Now is not the time...keep going down on her.
When her reactions are strong and her pelvic area starts to thrust and she's squirming about, this is when you're going to want to start fingering here while you're licking her pussy.
To get started, take your index finger and slowly insert it into her pussy with the palm of your hand upwards and the back of your hand towards the bed. As you insert her, you'll want to go to about 1 o'clock and about to your middle knuckle. From here you want to start making a motion with your finger like you're telling her to "come here" while you're gliding along the inside of her. This ares is her g-spot.
You'll want to pay attention to that area so that you locate the g-spot. You'll notice because it will start to swell as the blood flows to this area and you'll feel a slight bump in that area and it will be sensitive to her.
As you find the g-spot, you'll want to try different pressures on it and different paces of your strokes on it to see how she reacts.
Now you should be stimulating both her clitoris with your tongue and her g-spot with your finger. As you're doing this you want to focus on her reactions and her guidance. Many women will be vocal at this point and start guiding you as to what they want. Listen to their body and their voice, but don't be afraid to experiment a little to see if you can find other pleasure points that make her react positively.
What you've just read is the basics. The basics, when done correctly, can get a woman to orgasm or close to it. One thing to remember is that every woman responds differently and some may take a while to get revved up enough to orgasm. If you're willing to put the time and effort it, she will be very appreciative and will keep coming back for more.
Pro tips
As you get more and more comfortable with a woman's pussy and her pleasure points, then you can start experimenting more. One thing you can do is to use two fingers and get deep into her. Here you will find her cervix (if she has one). WOman who have had their uterus removed will likely not have a cervix. The cervix is donut shaped and you can stimulate it by gently rubbing the surface of it. When you stimulate it you'll notice that her pussy will get more and more wet.
Getting to know her pussy will also help you be more effective with toys, such as dildos and vibrators. You'll be able to use the in a way that stimulates her pleasure points.
Remember to have fun and discover what her pussy offers. It, and she, will reward you for doing so. Have fun!
I'm sorry to break it to you guys, but just penetrating a woman with your cock isn't going to get the job done normally. Instead, you need to learn the art of foreplay and getting a woman revved up so that she can also reach climax and have an amazing orgasm. I'm not going to get into foreplay here, but I am going to detail how to go down on a woman, as it's one of the best ways to get a woman to orgasm or close to orgasm.
Why go down on a woman?
The main reason to go down on a woman is that they typically love it...if you're good at it. But there are a few more reasons.
Putting her first
By going down on a woman you're showing her that you're willing to put her first, which can be a huge turn on to her because women respond to emotional stimulation just as much as they respond to their physical stimulation. While the act of putting her first may seem a selfless act, you'll soon find out that this selfless act will reap many rewards in the form of her wanting more and more sex with you.
You'll learn where and how she gets stimulated
When you go down on a woman for the first couple of times you'll start to learn the different spots in and around her pussy that get her stimulated. Some woman will be more stimulated at her clitoris, while others will be more stimulated at her G-spot. You'll also find that a woman can be very stimulated at her cervix.
It will open up more sexual positions
When men think about going down on a woman, they often think of where the woman is laying on her back and the man is on his belly with his head nestled between her legs. While this is likely where you'll get started there are a couple more positions that open up when you eat out a woman.
The first position is her riding your face. The good thing about learning a woman's body and her pussy's pleasure points, is that when she rides your face you can often make her orgasm quickly. Many woman are able to orgasm easier when they are more actively engaged in the sexual position. When she's on top of your face and riding you, you can take what you've learned about her pleasure points and stimulate them while she's actively engaged in the process more than just laying on her back.
The second position is 69. When a woman knows that you like to eat her out she will often want to pleasure you at the same time. This is a really fun position for both of you and has led to magic in the bedroom many times.
You can even pivot her riding your face into 69 or the opposite!
How to go down on a woman
In writing this section, I'm going to write as if you've never seen a pussy so I don't miss any details. Especially for those that haven't.
To start off, you're going to want to move the woman to where she's laying on her back. Then you'll want to get her to spread her legs for you so that you can get access to her pussy. When I do this, I like to start down by her feet or calves and start kissing up her legs, gently spreading her legs further and further apart as I make my way up them.
When you get up to her pussy, you'll want her legs bent, knees in the air, and her feet or heels on the bed or surface that she's laying on. This will give you better access to her pussy.
When I have a woman in this position, especially for the first time, I like to kiss around her inner thighs and pussy. This gives me a moment to survey the area and see what her pussy looks like so I know what I'm working with.
Once you have a good survey of the area, you'll want to spread her lips to get access to her clitoris. This is often called "The man in the boat" as it will be a small bump at the top of her lips where they come together. Some women will have a much larger clitoris that's very prominent. The only difference in them is the size.
As you expose the clit, you'll want to take a long lick across it to get her blood flowing to that area and her senses heightened. Continue to take long strokes with your tongue along her clit to get her stimulated. As you continue to do this you should start to see her reacting to the stimulation through her body movements and the sounds she makes. When she starts to react you should also notice that the clitoris is going to get harder and more swollen. This is what you want. This means she is getting aroused.
When you notice the clit is getting harder and swollen, then you can start to take shorter strokes and flick it with your tongue more rapidly. Don't start off at full speed, but slowly increase the frequency of your licks and flicks to see how she reacts. What you should start seeing is her pelvic area pushing up towards your face and her reactions getting stronger. At this point she may start begging for you to penetrate her with your cock. Now is not the time...keep going down on her.
When her reactions are strong and her pelvic area starts to thrust and she's squirming about, this is when you're going to want to start fingering here while you're licking her pussy.
To get started, take your index finger and slowly insert it into her pussy with the palm of your hand upwards and the back of your hand towards the bed. As you insert her, you'll want to go to about 1 o'clock and about to your middle knuckle. From here you want to start making a motion with your finger like you're telling her to "come here" while you're gliding along the inside of her. This ares is her g-spot.
You'll want to pay attention to that area so that you locate the g-spot. You'll notice because it will start to swell as the blood flows to this area and you'll feel a slight bump in that area and it will be sensitive to her.
As you find the g-spot, you'll want to try different pressures on it and different paces of your strokes on it to see how she reacts.
Now you should be stimulating both her clitoris with your tongue and her g-spot with your finger. As you're doing this you want to focus on her reactions and her guidance. Many women will be vocal at this point and start guiding you as to what they want. Listen to their body and their voice, but don't be afraid to experiment a little to see if you can find other pleasure points that make her react positively.
What you've just read is the basics. The basics, when done correctly, can get a woman to orgasm or close to it. One thing to remember is that every woman responds differently and some may take a while to get revved up enough to orgasm. If you're willing to put the time and effort it, she will be very appreciative and will keep coming back for more.
Pro tips
As you get more and more comfortable with a woman's pussy and her pleasure points, then you can start experimenting more. One thing you can do is to use two fingers and get deep into her. Here you will find her cervix (if she has one). WOman who have had their uterus removed will likely not have a cervix. The cervix is donut shaped and you can stimulate it by gently rubbing the surface of it. When you stimulate it you'll notice that her pussy will get more and more wet.
Getting to know her pussy will also help you be more effective with toys, such as dildos and vibrators. You'll be able to use the in a way that stimulates her pleasure points.
Remember to have fun and discover what her pussy offers. It, and she, will reward you for doing so. Have fun!